The last moons / Le ultime lune
Furio Bordon
HUSBAND
Objective Data:
Very old.
When he was young, his father took him to the retirement home that his father (HUSBAND’s grandfather) resided.
He went to a boarding school until he became an adult.
Had classical studies and became a literature professor.
He was a charming man. A smile from him was enough for people to like him, making communication with other people an easy thing for him.
He used to read a lot, especially classic literature.
He met the WIFE when he was 24 and she was 19. In a week’s time he decided that he wanted to spend all his life, up to the very end with her.
When the WIFE was still a student, he would go every day to her university to pick her up after classes.
One day, when he saw the WIFE pick up a dying pigeon from the muddy waters of the street and place it on a nearby flower bed, he decided to marry her. He resented the dying pigeon.
When the HUSBAND was around 50, the WIFE died. After her death he drew to himself and avoided contact with friends and any form of social life.
His favorite musician is Bach, who he still listens ceaselessly. He used to listen to Lester Young because the WIFE liked him.
Sometimes, he used to say stories to his son (SON) in order to upset him. Only when the child started to cry, did the HUSBAND feel how much he loved him.
He has undergone medical operation four times in his life.
He doesn’t read any more because his eyes get tired. He only reads comic books. His favorite character is Louie, the nephew of Donald Duck.
Ten years ago, when his second grandchild was born, he gave up his room so that his two grandchildren can have a bigger room. He took up the room of his first grandchild. In that room there is a picture of the dog Pluto from the comic books.
Many nights he has nightmares because he is afraid of death. He calms himself only when he looks at the photo of Pluto on the wall.
Psychic Structure:
His mother was emotionally non-existent and never gave him any care.
In order to seize care from her, he had to be just like she wanted him to be.
His relationship with his mother was an incomplete normal symbiotical relationship.
The pain from his psychic trauma was caused by the experience of abandonment from his emotionally non-existent mother.
He has a fear of death due to abandonment.
His father was totally absent. The only relationship he developed with his father was when his father used him in order to gain the acceptance of his own father (HUSBAND’s grandfather).
During the HUSBAND’s childhood, his father was never a substitute for a mother (i.e. an object of a psychological maternal projection), because he too abandoned him.
He has anger towards his mother and father for abandoning him, hence he has anger for every object onto which he projects (psychologically) his parents.
His parents relationship is non-existent. Emotionally speaking he is brought up like an orphan.
Emotional Pattern:
Egocentric love towards the objects of maternal projection.
He has a great need to make up for the incomplete normal symbiotical relationship he had with his mother, a relationship in which not everyone fits in, not even his own son (SON).
He has a great need and desire to create a symbiotic relationship, inside which there is always an unconscious anger due to maternal projection.
Throughout his adult life, the HUSBAND is drawn towards objects of maternal projection. In due course though, he experiences that they abandon him, either because they truly leave him, or because he feels that they move away from him, without this being the actual reality.
He experiences pain when there isn’t a symbiotic relationship in his life, which results in him seeking substitutes of this even in inanimate objects.
He cannot give care to anyone besides his wife (WIFE), with whom he has an egocentric symbiotical relationship.
Presently he has an egocentric symbiotical relationship with a basil plant, his cigarettes and Bach. Even the picture of the dog on the wall (Pluto), which is an object of maternal projection and which soothes him from his fear of death during his nightmares, creates by nature a symbiotic relationship.
Very old.
When he was young, his father took him to the retirement home that his father (HUSBAND’s grandfather) resided.
He went to a boarding school until he became an adult.
Had classical studies and became a literature professor.
He was a charming man. A smile from him was enough for people to like him, making communication with other people an easy thing for him.
He used to read a lot, especially classic literature.
He met the WIFE when he was 24 and she was 19. In a week’s time he decided that he wanted to spend all his life, up to the very end with her.
When the WIFE was still a student, he would go every day to her university to pick her up after classes.
One day, when he saw the WIFE pick up a dying pigeon from the muddy waters of the street and place it on a nearby flower bed, he decided to marry her. He resented the dying pigeon.
When the HUSBAND was around 50, the WIFE died. After her death he drew to himself and avoided contact with friends and any form of social life.
His favorite musician is Bach, who he still listens ceaselessly. He used to listen to Lester Young because the WIFE liked him.
Sometimes, he used to say stories to his son (SON) in order to upset him. Only when the child started to cry, did the HUSBAND feel how much he loved him.
He has undergone medical operation four times in his life.
He doesn’t read any more because his eyes get tired. He only reads comic books. His favorite character is Louie, the nephew of Donald Duck.
Ten years ago, when his second grandchild was born, he gave up his room so that his two grandchildren can have a bigger room. He took up the room of his first grandchild. In that room there is a picture of the dog Pluto from the comic books.
Many nights he has nightmares because he is afraid of death. He calms himself only when he looks at the photo of Pluto on the wall.
Psychic Structure:
His mother was emotionally non-existent and never gave him any care.
In order to seize care from her, he had to be just like she wanted him to be.
His relationship with his mother was an incomplete normal symbiotical relationship.
The pain from his psychic trauma was caused by the experience of abandonment from his emotionally non-existent mother.
He has a fear of death due to abandonment.
His father was totally absent. The only relationship he developed with his father was when his father used him in order to gain the acceptance of his own father (HUSBAND’s grandfather).
During the HUSBAND’s childhood, his father was never a substitute for a mother (i.e. an object of a psychological maternal projection), because he too abandoned him.
He has anger towards his mother and father for abandoning him, hence he has anger for every object onto which he projects (psychologically) his parents.
His parents relationship is non-existent. Emotionally speaking he is brought up like an orphan.
Emotional Pattern:
Egocentric love towards the objects of maternal projection.
He has a great need to make up for the incomplete normal symbiotical relationship he had with his mother, a relationship in which not everyone fits in, not even his own son (SON).
He has a great need and desire to create a symbiotic relationship, inside which there is always an unconscious anger due to maternal projection.
Throughout his adult life, the HUSBAND is drawn towards objects of maternal projection. In due course though, he experiences that they abandon him, either because they truly leave him, or because he feels that they move away from him, without this being the actual reality.
He experiences pain when there isn’t a symbiotic relationship in his life, which results in him seeking substitutes of this even in inanimate objects.
He cannot give care to anyone besides his wife (WIFE), with whom he has an egocentric symbiotical relationship.
Presently he has an egocentric symbiotical relationship with a basil plant, his cigarettes and Bach. Even the picture of the dog on the wall (Pluto), which is an object of maternal projection and which soothes him from his fear of death during his nightmares, creates by nature a symbiotic relationship.
WIFE
Objective Data:
She met the HUSBAND when she was 19, still studying at the university.
Everyday when she would come out from the big gates of the university she would find the HUSBAND waiting for her. The WIFE was fearful that he might not be there waiting for her. The HUSBAND was always there waiting, even when he was sick.
She was/is very beautiful and stunning.
She enjoyed listening to Lester Young, who was her favorite musician. She would also listen to Bach, because of her husband (HUSBAND).
The WIFE accepted the marriage proposal of the HUSBAND, even though he decided to marry her when he was disgusted by a dying pigeon that she took in her hands from the muddy waters of the street and placed it in a nearby flower bed, so that at least the pigeon would die on grass.
She died before menopause.
As a couple with the HUSBAND, they always communicated and still do with teasing and humor. This form of communication, in the past, took place against the benefit of their son (SON).
They reveled against their son (SON), “always taking him half-jokingly ” .
The WIFE consented to this sort of behavior, more for the sake of her husband (HUSBAND).
Psychic Structure:
The mother of the WIFE tolerated the pain caused to her and to her daughter by her husband (WIFE’S father).
The mother of the WIFE tolerated her tyrannical husband (WIFE’S father) because she was afraid of him.
The mother of the WIFE knew that her husband’s actions where detrimental for their daughter (the WIFE), but she remained silent.
The pain caused by the father of the WIFE, both to her and to her mother, had an irrational-manic background, maybe due to alcoholism or psychosis.
The pain from the psychic trauma of the WIFE was created by the rejection she got from both her parents.
She had anger/hatred towards both her parents because they rejected her, each in his own way.
The WIFE introjected-recorded parents that got happy when they hurt her.
She had anger/hatred towards both her parents because they hurt her: her father directly, while her mother indirectly with her tolerance.
The parents of the WIFE hurt her because they did not accept her. Moreover, because they didn’t accept her, they didn’t listen to her, both as a physical presence and in regards to her real needs and emotions. Because of this condition the pain of the WIFE grew.
The relationship of her parents was that of perpetrator and victim.
Emotional Pattern:
She has a constant fear of rejection, which is scattered by proofs of love.
Every time she experiences rejection, and thus the pain of her trauma is mobilized, the rejection has an irrational background.
She has anger/hatred towards any object which she feels that it rejects her, i.e. objects onto which she has a parental projection.
She has a great need/desire to create a relationship of acceptance, inside which though, there is always an unconscious anger due to parental projection.
When she creates a relationship in which she feels accepted, even if in reality she isn’t, there is no room for anyone else, even for her son (SON).
In her adult life the WIFE needs self-evident proofs of acceptance and love.
She demands full attention, in a passive way.
Her great need for acceptance makes her perceive tolerance as proof of love. As a result she stays in a relationship where there is no real acceptance.
She met the HUSBAND when she was 19, still studying at the university.
Everyday when she would come out from the big gates of the university she would find the HUSBAND waiting for her. The WIFE was fearful that he might not be there waiting for her. The HUSBAND was always there waiting, even when he was sick.
She was/is very beautiful and stunning.
She enjoyed listening to Lester Young, who was her favorite musician. She would also listen to Bach, because of her husband (HUSBAND).
The WIFE accepted the marriage proposal of the HUSBAND, even though he decided to marry her when he was disgusted by a dying pigeon that she took in her hands from the muddy waters of the street and placed it in a nearby flower bed, so that at least the pigeon would die on grass.
She died before menopause.
As a couple with the HUSBAND, they always communicated and still do with teasing and humor. This form of communication, in the past, took place against the benefit of their son (SON).
They reveled against their son (SON), “always taking him half-jokingly ” .
The WIFE consented to this sort of behavior, more for the sake of her husband (HUSBAND).
Psychic Structure:
The mother of the WIFE tolerated the pain caused to her and to her daughter by her husband (WIFE’S father).
The mother of the WIFE tolerated her tyrannical husband (WIFE’S father) because she was afraid of him.
The mother of the WIFE knew that her husband’s actions where detrimental for their daughter (the WIFE), but she remained silent.
The pain caused by the father of the WIFE, both to her and to her mother, had an irrational-manic background, maybe due to alcoholism or psychosis.
The pain from the psychic trauma of the WIFE was created by the rejection she got from both her parents.
She had anger/hatred towards both her parents because they rejected her, each in his own way.
The WIFE introjected-recorded parents that got happy when they hurt her.
She had anger/hatred towards both her parents because they hurt her: her father directly, while her mother indirectly with her tolerance.
The parents of the WIFE hurt her because they did not accept her. Moreover, because they didn’t accept her, they didn’t listen to her, both as a physical presence and in regards to her real needs and emotions. Because of this condition the pain of the WIFE grew.
The relationship of her parents was that of perpetrator and victim.
Emotional Pattern:
She has a constant fear of rejection, which is scattered by proofs of love.
Every time she experiences rejection, and thus the pain of her trauma is mobilized, the rejection has an irrational background.
She has anger/hatred towards any object which she feels that it rejects her, i.e. objects onto which she has a parental projection.
She has a great need/desire to create a relationship of acceptance, inside which though, there is always an unconscious anger due to parental projection.
When she creates a relationship in which she feels accepted, even if in reality she isn’t, there is no room for anyone else, even for her son (SON).
In her adult life the WIFE needs self-evident proofs of acceptance and love.
She demands full attention, in a passive way.
Her great need for acceptance makes her perceive tolerance as proof of love. As a result she stays in a relationship where there is no real acceptance.
Relationship between HUSBAND and WIFE
The symbiotical dynamic that the couple perceives as a dynamic of love, is based on the fact that the HUSBAND does not listen to the true needs of his wife (WIFE), meaning he does not accept her totally, where as the WIFE perceives the HUSBAND’s tolerance as acceptance.
But, as it happens in the dynamic of relationships, the roles are always played both ways.
But, as it happens in the dynamic of relationships, the roles are always played both ways.
SON
Objective Data:
45 years old.
His mother (WIFE) and father (HUSBAND) “always took him half-jokingly ”.
In his 6th birthday, they played on the stereo songs from “Cinderella” .
When his parents told him the “secret of his birth”, he started to stutter.
The stuttering comes back, even now, when he is emotionally charged (upset).
When he was 6-7 years old, his mother died.
He lives with his wife and two children, a boy and a girl.
Everyday, coming back from work, he follows without deviation the following routine:
He chooses the retirement home “Villa Glykeria”.
Psychic Structure:
Because of the egocentric symbiotical relationship of his parents, he always experienced that he was not accepted (i.e. as an embryo, as a newborn baby and as a child).
His presence will always ruin the dynamic of his parent’s relationship.
He always experiences rejection from his parents and as a result he is overcome by fear of death.
The constant rejection from his parents is the source of his trauma. He feels pain and anger/hatred towards his parents, who hurt him.
The pain that he experienced, both inside his mother’s womb and right after his birth, when his mother rejected his primordial love for her, because of the symbiotic relationship she had with her husband (HUSBAND), is unbearable and forces him not to withstand expressing love.
The possibility of expressing love and it being cancelled, can drive him into madness.
The basic defenses of his “ego” are rationalization and obsessive compulsion.
Every action he does is well calculated and logical, having no contact with any emotion.
Contact with any psychic (emotional) charge, blocks him completely.
His emotional blocking manifests itself physically through his stutter.
His body movement is stiff.
Emotional Pattern:
Fear of death due to rejection dominates his life. He organizes everything perfectly, so that he minimizes the possibility of being rejected. But, because the emotional pattern always repeats itself, in the end he is lead to feel rejection (even by the audience).
Specifically at work, he is always thoroughly prepared, so that he achieves professional growth and thus feel accepted.
The anger/hatred towards his parents, which is unconscious towards all objects of paternal projection, makes him unable to give care, just like he never received care himself.
In his adult life he has a great need for constant confirmation of acceptance, resulting in him recounting anything that deems worthy of recognition. He asks for acceptance from any object of parental projection (e.g. everyday from his wife).
He compels his father (HUSBAND) to go to the retirement home, by doing to him what he himself (SON) had experienced from both his parents: rejection.
45 years old.
His mother (WIFE) and father (HUSBAND) “always took him half-jokingly ”.
In his 6th birthday, they played on the stereo songs from “Cinderella” .
When his parents told him the “secret of his birth”, he started to stutter.
The stuttering comes back, even now, when he is emotionally charged (upset).
When he was 6-7 years old, his mother died.
He lives with his wife and two children, a boy and a girl.
Everyday, coming back from work, he follows without deviation the following routine:
- He greets his wife and tells her how amazing he was at work.
- He takes his papers from his bag and places them in a tidy way on his desk.
- He takes off his shoes and jacket and washes his hands.
- He caresses and plays with his children for 10’ – if it’s Easter or Christmas for 15’.
- He watches news on the TV, so that he is well informed, because that’s what his stature at work requires.
- He eats 5-6 peanuts and drinks half a glass of white wine.
- He enters his father’s (HUSBAND) room.
He chooses the retirement home “Villa Glykeria”.
Psychic Structure:
Because of the egocentric symbiotical relationship of his parents, he always experienced that he was not accepted (i.e. as an embryo, as a newborn baby and as a child).
His presence will always ruin the dynamic of his parent’s relationship.
He always experiences rejection from his parents and as a result he is overcome by fear of death.
The constant rejection from his parents is the source of his trauma. He feels pain and anger/hatred towards his parents, who hurt him.
The pain that he experienced, both inside his mother’s womb and right after his birth, when his mother rejected his primordial love for her, because of the symbiotic relationship she had with her husband (HUSBAND), is unbearable and forces him not to withstand expressing love.
The possibility of expressing love and it being cancelled, can drive him into madness.
The basic defenses of his “ego” are rationalization and obsessive compulsion.
Every action he does is well calculated and logical, having no contact with any emotion.
Contact with any psychic (emotional) charge, blocks him completely.
His emotional blocking manifests itself physically through his stutter.
His body movement is stiff.
Emotional Pattern:
Fear of death due to rejection dominates his life. He organizes everything perfectly, so that he minimizes the possibility of being rejected. But, because the emotional pattern always repeats itself, in the end he is lead to feel rejection (even by the audience).
Specifically at work, he is always thoroughly prepared, so that he achieves professional growth and thus feel accepted.
The anger/hatred towards his parents, which is unconscious towards all objects of paternal projection, makes him unable to give care, just like he never received care himself.
In his adult life he has a great need for constant confirmation of acceptance, resulting in him recounting anything that deems worthy of recognition. He asks for acceptance from any object of parental projection (e.g. everyday from his wife).
He compels his father (HUSBAND) to go to the retirement home, by doing to him what he himself (SON) had experienced from both his parents: rejection.
Theatrological Elaboration: Ariel Konstantinides
Psychotheatrological Analysis: Ariel Konstantinides/Panos Mavitzis
Psychotheatrological Analysis: Ariel Konstantinides/Panos Mavitzis